A Mom In Need of HelpThu, Feb 5th 2009
I have a 20 year old daughter. She has been enrolled in college dropped out for a guy. Now after 2 yrs they are broke up. She didn't wait long and found another guy who doesn't work, drinks all day and doesn't drive. My daughter was just in a head on crash and totalled her car and three others. I think she may have been on the cell phone but she claims she hit ice. Either way I cannot get her to grow up, get a job, do anything. Her father and I have financially shut her off. I have offered for her to live with me and I will try to help her get started again. I am so frustrated she just doesn't see she needs to be responsible and try to start a life without a guy. She is 20 but acts like she is 13 I'm not sure if she is mentally ill, she claims she gets severely depressed and thinks about killing herself. I tell her I am here and I love her and would do anything to help her I just want her to try to help herself. My younger brother is 36 and is the same way, cannot keep a job, and thinks everyone owes him something, he is a habitual liar and only thinks of himself. My daughter seems to be heading down the same path. Is there anything I could do to help her, not sure what to do please advise me. Thank you, Mary
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